Take a look at the video below, and I’ll show you how to put your hair up with one arm!
Honestly, it took me a long time to build up the courage to even try to put my own hair up. My mom did it for me until I was in high school. She was good at it, and letting her do it was way easier than trying to figure it out for myself.
I’ve also always prefered having my hair down. So I figured I never really needed to learn to do it myself. I could wear my hair down most of the time, and if I ever needed it up, I could ask my mom for some help.
I wouldn’t have admitted it to myself at the time, but I know now that I didn’t want to learn how to put up my own hair because I was afraid. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to do it. I was afraid I’d try, only to fail miserably.
And I did try, half-heartedly, from time to time. But I’d only end up frustrated when I didn’t get the results I was looking for.
When I was in elementary school, a woman who’d lost her arm in an accident tried to teach me how to put my hair in a ponytail with one arm. I wish I would’ve listened to her, but instead, I walked away and ignored her (well, technically I swam away, since we were in a swimming pool). I didn’t like the fact that she was drawing attention to a gap in my abilities as a girl with one arm. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to do it like she did, and then I’d really be a failure.
But then, I got to high school and things changed. I joined the track team, and realized my mom wouldn’t always be with me to put my hair in a ponytail. It was time I learned for myself.
I bought a hair tie that was supposed to help put up hair with one arm, but that didn’t help. I watched YouTube tutorials trying to see how other people did it.
It didn’t happen overnight, but I found what works for me. I don’t do the best ponytail, but it serves its purpose just fine!
I know not all of you reading this have one arm, but there’s a lesson for all of us in this post: don’t be so afraid of failing that you accept defeat.
Don’t believe the voices in your head that tell you you’ll never reach your goals.
Don’t even acknowledge the lies the world tries to feed you: lies about who you are, about what you can and can’t do, about your worth and value.
In the name of Jesus, declare your worth. In the name of Jesus, declare that you are strong and that you can reach the goals He has planted in your soul.
And never forget… you are onederfully created.
Love,
Becca
