Falling in love with Seth was an unexpected gift from my heavenly Father. Falling in love was (and is) fun, exhilarating, new, and exciting. We’ve been married for over a year, and I still fall more and more in love with Seth every day.

To be honest, I never really thought I’d get married. Between my insecurities about my appearance and my fear of the modern dating world, I was ready to be happily single for the rest of my life. And there’s nothing wrong with that, except God had other plans for me.

Falling in love is often filled with the warm, fuzzy feelings that you see in the movies and read about in romance novels. But, it’s not always sunshine and butterflies. Sometimes, we argue over silly things. Sometimes, we disagree.

More than anything, there is one thing I wish I would’ve known about falling in love. It’s something I think I heard in the church growing up, but I never took it seriously because I never understood what it would feel like to be in the shoes of a person in love.

A man will never make you feel whole.

A man will never complete you. He will never be able to fill the void in your heart, no matter how perfect he is.

A man will never make you feel better about yourself. He won’t take away your insecurities.

No matter how many times Seth tells me I’m beautiful, I’m not going to believe it – unless I already have an understanding of my own beauty as a child of God.

To be clear, knowing this now doesn’t change my relationship with Seth. I’m still beyond thankful to have him as my husband and my life partner. But it’s so important to understand that God is the only one who can make you feel whole.

God is the only one who can complete you, and fill the empty void in your heart where you just know something is missing. God is the only one who can reach into the depths of your insecurities. He’s the only one who can transform hearts and perceptions.

In Ephesians 5:25-27, Paul writes, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”

Christ is love. He is the perfect husband. He is the only one who can make us perfect, holy, and radiant.

Seth loves me a whole lot, but he can’t make me holy.

Our earthly relationships should reflect the love Christ has for the church, but we will never be able to perfect the art of love. Therefore, we can never depend on earthly relationships – on falling in love – to make us feel whole.

So, what should you do? Fall in love with Christ first. Make your relationship with him your priority. When someone special comes knocking at your door, tell him about your love for Jesus. Make sure you are on the same page from the start. Be vulnerable about the ways Christ has filled your life.

And, my friend, never forget that you are a onederfully created child of God.

Love,
Becca