You dreams change when you get married.
If you’re married, you probably get what I’m saying. If you’re not married yet, take it for what you will.
But with my (limited) experience, I’ve found this to be true. When you get married, things change. Your family changes. Your home changes. Your routines change, and you dreams change. When you link your life to another, those details that used to define you might not seem so clear anymore.
Because once you’re married, you can’t just do whatever you want. There’s another person in the equation now. You have to consider his needs and his desires, too. You have to learn to make decisions together.
If you suddenly have a dream of packing up and living in London for a year, you can’t (or at least, shouldn’t) just go.
One of my dreams has always been to travel. But now that I’m married, it’s not quite as simple as it used to be. We both have to get time off work. We both have to agree on how we’re going to spend our money, while still paying off student loans.
Adding another person inevitably complicates the equation.
But don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying this added complication is a bad thing.
I love being married. I love having someone who will always be deeply invested in my life, because he is part of it. I love sharing our dreams with each other.
I love dreaming together. And this sounds very cliche, but I truly believe that a couple that dreams together, thrives together.
And even though your dreams still change, in some ways, dreaming together is even better than dreaming alone. Because…
1. You can support each other in even the craziest of dreams.
Your spouse can be your biggest cheerleader. I’m not sure Seth would appreciate being called this, but he’s my dream cheerleader. He supports me constantly and is excited for me when I draw near to my dreams. I hope he can say the same for me.
2. You share in a myriad of emotions as you dream together… emotions like anticipation, eagerness, and even fear.
Dreaming is often joined by big emotions. When you dream together, you experience these emotions together and so you grow together.
3. You learn to trust God together.
Ultimately, Seth and I strive to dream God’s dreams for our lives, and not our own. As we dream together for our little family, we’re learning to trust God… together. He’s the core of our relationship that binds us together in all we do, including our dreams.
So don’t be afraid to dream together. Share your hearts with each other. Explore what God has for you.
And never forget… you are onederfully created.
Love,
Becca
